Actress Goldie Hawn has spoken out about how she struggled as a working mother when it came to her three children, and we think her advice is pretty on point. The American actress has three: Kate Hudson, Oliver Hudson and Wyatt Russell.
All three have followed in their mother’s footsteps and pursued careers in the entertainment industry, and Goldie has spoken about how she has always believed in the importance of allowing her children to define themselves and live their own lives, despite their links to her and the public persona she has.
The main thrust of her advice came after she was asked about letting her kids go to live their lives, and Goldie admitted, like most parents we’re sure, she struggled when it came to stepping back and letting her brood really discover life for themselves.
It’s something that we’re sure most parents can empathise with, after having your children in the nest for so many years and raising them, it can be a difficult thing when the time comes to really let them go and she makes some on point comments about this.
She said in an episode of Oprah’s Master Class that an ancient story in Greek mythology called Dementer and Peresephone helped her realise the importance of giving kids room to discover their own identities. And it actually makes a lot of sense. Dementer and Peresephone is a story of a mother and daughter, and the bond that they shared. The story goes, that when the daughter Peresephone, grew into a young woman, she was taken off her mother by the gods of the underworld.
Goldie has her own interpretation of the myth, which she used when it came to letting her own children spread their wings: “She [the daughter] had to become a woman, and she had to leave the clutches of her mother, in order to define who she is,” Goldie explained.
“What this is, is an example of how we as mothers have to be able to not just pass the baton, but to be able to give free reign for your daughter to grow, to make mistakes,” she says. “Doesn’t mean they’re not watched. But it means that they’re honored. You watch them become individuals,” she added.
“That’s what being a mother is also, is witnessing. Just be there. You don’t always have to power over,” she said. “I believe that this is one of the most important things as a parent you can do… to let go, in times, so these children can formulate their own identity.”
That sounds like pretty solid advice to us. Do you agree?