Following SATC creator Darren Star’s comments over how he felt Carrie finding love “betrayed” the core values of the show, series star Sarah Jessica Parker has defended the storyline, saying, “I don’t think of it as someone diminishing herself”.
She told Yahoo Style: “As I recall, the way Carrie and Big married was something she wanted rather than a feeling that life was slipping away and she best settle quickly. I don’t think of it as someone diminishing herself by letting a man marry her — it always felt that she had arrived at that on her own. But the beauty is we can all have lots and lots of opinions about lots of choices Carrie made that we object to or that we stand by.”
Echoing some fans’ sentiments about the fairy-tale ending for central character Bradshaw, Star said he believes it “betrayed” the core values of the show. “I think the show ultimately betrayed what it was about, which was that women don’t ultimately find happiness from marriage,” he said. “Not that they can’t.”
“If that’s Darren’s feeling, I think it’s interesting!” she added.
Parker also spoke about her thoughts on social media in the interview, saying that she isn’t a fan of selfies. “I could never post a selfie. I’m embarrassed to even do a selfie with a nice person on the street!”
And her secret for dealing with online trolls and often sexist comments? Killing a person with kindness.
“People have said unfriendly or vulgar things [on social media], and we have had civilised conversations about it! I can’t bear when women use bad language on my page, and I don’t enjoy wagging my finger and I don’t relish a stern conversation but I’m not afraid to say to somebody, ‘Can you tell me what you mean? Can you tell me what is making you so angry? I’m sorry I disappointed you.’ It’s immediately disarming and they are like, ‘I’m sorry!’ That’s the secret.”
19/01/2016: Sex and the City quickly became a landmark soon after it aired in 1998. Here was a show unafraid to comment and delve into real women’s issues surrounding sex, love and everything else in between. It didn’t get everything right – that apartment and designer wardrobe on one column a week?- But it opened up an important conversation, and it remains a cultural touchstone 14 years later. Every woman watching latched onto one of the four female lead characters in some form, seeing a variation of themselves on the screen. We rooted for our favourite and in particular, rejoiced when the time came to wrap up couture-obsessed Carrie’s tale, but the series creator and writer Darren Star didn’t feel the same way.
He said that he objected to the show becoming a “conventional romantic comedy,” when fans had responded to it for being the opposite. “The show initially was going off script from the romantic comedies that had come before it. That’s what had made women so attached. In the end, it became a conventional romantic comedy […] But unless you’re there to write every episode, you’re not going to get the ending you want.”
Star had less involvement as the series progressed, so a new team of writers came up with the ending in which Bradshaw and all the girls find happiness with the men they truly loved.
Even writer Liz Tuccillo previously admitted there was an argument in the writing room about having all of the girlfriends end up in relationships, rather than independently happy, but said it was what the public wanted.
“All of us were arguing about it. Not just that she ends up with Big, because I think we all knew, even if we didn’t want to admit it, that she was going to end up with Big. But the fact that all of the women end up with someone […] And by having every character with somebody, it means that ultimately, the show is about finding love in the big city and we’re going to be optimists and say that everybody’s found it.”
“We could have ended it saying, ‘The show isn’t about women finding love. It’s about the journey of self-acceptance, about being happy with yourself and being single. Also, you don’t always get what you want, anyway,’ But who’s gonna want to watch that?”
Yes, the optimistic ending meant that the TV show conformed to type, but Cynthia Nixon/Miranda said that its underlying message was still there, and that’s why there wouldn’t be another sequel. “We learned the lesson of the show: marriage isn’t the be all and end all in women’s minds anymore, and women are friends with each other in a way that rivals their romantic relationships.”
And though Star makes a valid point, we imagine many would have been slightly devastated if Big hadn’t gone after Carrie after all was said and done.