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Behind Closed Doors: ‘I’m an IT consultant by day and a dominatrix by night’

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by Amanda Cassidy
04th Aug 2021

LA-born but living in Ireland, Clarity Mills runs an IT consultancy business. By night she works as a professional dominatrix. She speaks to Amanda Cassidy about the psychology of kink and what she believes drives her clients

“I was a naturally a bossy and assertive person growing up and I always found that power quite cathartic. Then, when I was seventeen, I had a terrible thing happen to me.  It was around the time of my own sexual awaking too so I started associating sex with fear. I was having a really hard time reclaiming that. When I explored this online, I found that there were people using kink, almost like CBT...

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